What Makes A Man Lose Interest.....

Ever wondered what sport has, that you dont?  Thats my next BLOG.... and its an eye-Opener!!

      
I hear from hundreds of women each month who tell me some version of the following:
"It was going so great between us. He was calling me daily and saying how much he cared for me. We definitely had a connection. He even referred to having a future together. Suddenly, he just got cold and distant. He said he did not know why, but something just did not seem right. He said it was not my fault, it was him. Now he claims he is not sure about our relationship, and wants to take a break. I feel like I'm losing my mind - help!"

Can you relate to this woman? Even if this has not happened to you personally, it is terrifying to imagine the man you love suddenly acting stony and detached from you. Some women comfort themselves with the mistaken belief that this could not possibly happen to them.

Sadly, it happens all too frequently. No matter how beautiful, young looking, or charming a woman may be, a man can fall out of love with her. Don’t ever take a man's love for granted.

Here's the good news, you have the ability to arouse and also maintain a man’s passion for you by understanding exactly what he needs, as opposed to giving him what he thinks he wants.

During the first six months of a relationship, do you know what a man really needs? Take a guess. Do you believe it is passion, fun, or unlimited sex? Most men would admittedly like all three. However, passion, fun, or sex alone will not make a man to bond with you. What a man needs during the first few months of a relationship is for you to frustrate him.

By “frustrate” I am referring to setting limits on the time you spend with him. Do not allow him to spend as much time as he wishes with you. I understand it will be difficult, and it will not feel natural. What it will do is create tension. When it comes to dating, memorize this phrase, "Tension is your friend."

The women that maintain a hypnotic hold over men know this fact well. They do not consider it "game playing.” They have found this behavior to be effective in reaching their desired goal, which is to get married. These women are tired of dating, and they have had enough dates to realize that they do not need any additional practice. You can become like these women, if you choose.

Men; The age old dilemma!

Men fascinate me, excite me, frighten me and confuse me.  As a heterosexual female, I have made it my quest to de-mystify and close gap in understanding the way relationships work.... for both men and women.

Have you ever felt hurt and confused by the actions of your partner?  Have you ever felt that after investing time, money, consideration and priority to your partner, he simply walks away.... or runs!  Have you planned a beautiful romantic dinner only to find that he simply wants to get home to his own place and relax in front of the tv watching sport, rather than whisk you off in his arms filled with gratitude?  The questions are endless.

The ecstasy of quiet connection 

After many years of investigation and listening to the analysis and theories of experts far more educated than myself, I feel I am well equipped to take these highly complex situations and explain them to ordinary women so that the pain stops here!

Relationships that do not have to end, anger that does not need to be felt, damage that doesnt need to be done..... and the pain that permeates throughout your life into everything that you use to enjoy.... can end.

Id like to invite you to follow me on a journey of empowerment and understanding and by coming with me.... you too will find clues to mysteries that you wont need to spend your lifetime discovering by making all the mistakes that I and so many I have spoken with.... have made.

Take a look at the photo below and think about what you take from this.  This movie, Juno,  is one of my all time favorites as it reinforces the power of authenticity.  Do you think he's lying?  Do you think he is simply trying to make Juno feel better about herself, or cheer her up?  What is Juno looking for when she asks him that question; is it just reassurance.... or is it a quality in him that she's assessing?

The power of physical beauty is one of the most over-rated myths in the world today..... and I know you've heard that a hundred times from middle aged women's libers and terrified mum's...... but empower yourself now!  Sit and think it through for yourself!  In order for you to understand this, you must think it through for yourself..... and it begins with the question;

What do men fall in love with in a woman?  What do women fall in love with in a man?

To answer this, we need to peel away the skin of that great big onion..... Love!

By peeling away, I mean we need to look at what lies before it or beneath it.... and to do that requires contemplation and thought with an open mind, as well as learning how to understand the difference between what we think it means and what it actually means.

As an example, those two questions do not ask;

What do men find attractive about women or vice versa?

Physical attraction is important.... especially to a man.... but attraction and love are entirely different things.... and a man in love is overwhelmed by attraction...... not to the way a woman looks; but....

To the way a woman makes him feel!

Love is really about how you feel, more than how wonderful the other person actually is!

Id love you to ponder this and see how it changes the way you think about men, relationships and love.

See you soon,

Rose-Marie